High Achievers Frequently Think They Are Not Courageous Or Disciplined Enough
I don’t know about you but sometimes I find myself thinking, “If only I could grow a pair so I can achieve more.”
I realise I’m talking about balls here, and may be a bit controversial in feminist fields, but stick with me as all turns out well in the end!
Please read this human to human. Growing a pair is what came to mind for me as a popular way of expressing the need to be more courageous.
The point is, many of us often berate ourselves for being lazy, unmotivated and not achieving what we think we should. And this is frequently people who are high achievers!
High achievers unknowingly put themselves at the mercy of this spin cycle and use up a lot of mental fuel beating themselves up.
Others don’t worry they’re lazy but instead feel fearful, hide away and procrastinate. They can’t seem to summon the strength to do the thing they’re terrified of in order to achieve the result they want.
Both camps think they’re lacking discipline and/or courage.
Whichever it may be, they believe they are lacking!
This feels depressing because we all know everything we ever wanted is on the other side of fear.
But what’s been a relief for me to discover in my Living Fearlessly journey is that we don’t need to fight our fears to achieve what we want.
All of these unpleasant feelings we experience come from the same source. Whilst they may seem very individual, and perhaps we need to work on these individual ‘blocks,’ it’s not necessary.
We condemn ourselves with self-judgment.
We’re harsh on ourselves.
This is all that’s going on.
If you were as harsh on others as you are on yourself you’d be lucky to have any friends.
And so there’s no need to grow a pair. We’re already fully equipped with all of the courage we require no matter what our gender.
Our default setting is to be fearless until we start judging ourselves.